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  • If it means I can stay with her I am willing to try anything, especially since our bond is insanely tight…

    Sounds like you feel vulnerable right now - which I think it just part of any worthwhile relationship.

    When I have felt similarly vulnerable, I found it centering to internalize my commitment to our bond.

    My spouse is the person that I would flex however they need, to be there for and have fun with them.

    When they have had needs I’m still trying to understand, I center my mind on this core belief: I plan to be there for them.

    It sounds to me like you found someone worth that, and are making peace with how vulnerable that leaves you.

    I don’t know what to add except I’ve been there, and it has been worth it.








  • I have absolutely no idea why Ubuntu is seemingly hated by everyone on lemmy.

    It’s Snaps.

    I mentioned somewhere else that my reason for using Linux is that, when I have a problem, no one designed that problem to extract money from me.

    Snaps feel designed to extract money.

    The funny part is, I’ve bought Ubuntu CDs just to support Canonical. I like giving them money.

    But Snaps feel like more of the kind of bullshit that I left Windows over, to me.

    Snaps redirect some of my software requests from fully free community packages into a partially paid app store. They’re not (yet) ripping me off, they just appear to be getting ready to rip me off.

    Seems to work fine, Installation was easy.

    Yes. Ubuntu is a fine place to start. It was the first Linux distro that really worked for me.

    Eventually, down the line, Snap may cause you some headaches, so we generally recommend Mint, which is effectively Ubuntu without Snap.

    The anger is just that Canonical keeps claiming to be an ally while appearing to prepare to rip people off by selling other people’s work that they gave away for free, for a fee.

    For context, many companies that have joined FOSS community have gone in this direction. People can be trustworthy. Corporations cannot, because they get sold or their CEO changes.








  • since everyone on lemmy is a programmer

    Just because I’m on Lemmy, does not make me a programmer.

    I mean, I am a programmer.

    But not because I’m on Lemmy. (I think.)

    what do you guys actually do?

    I say “please” in various ways that computers understand.

    Is it copying and pasting tons of code?

    Well… Yes, but with a lot more swearing at the computer.

    But I’m very good at it, so I copy and paste very small amounts of code very cleverly.

    Is it fixing small bugs

    I fix small bugs, huge bugs, critical bugs, and intermittent sneaky bugs. I get paid either way.