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Cake day: July 19th, 2025

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  • I’ve seen enough Christmas specials to know that richness from spending times with your loved ones, cultivating relationships with your community, and enjoying what you have.

    If you somehow don’t feel rich with your fabulously wealthy lifestyle, then I’m afraid you never will. In fact, you probably have too much stuff to feel rich, because richness doesn’t come from the pursuit of things.

    Don’t despair friend, I have a solution. Send me the deeds to your houses and factory and I’ll make sure someone who can appreciate them will enjoy them. Working through an agent like me will be far less scary than being visited by three ghosts tonight.




  • I’m having a hard time finding a job that aligns with my ethics. I was a software developer, and it seems that everything that’s hiring right now is stuff that would make me feel like garbage.

    I considered taking a job as a help desk for an advertising library. I figure I could do a really bad job of it, and take a big chunk of my salary to donate to adblockers.

    I earn about 30% of what I did five years ago, and prices have only gone up. I’ll probably become homeless if things continue, that’s pretty darn inconvenient.

    I just want to make dumb little video games to feed my family, but I’m too burnt out from my soul crushing minimum wage job to make dinner.





  • I’m of the opinion that anyone who supports the police probably hasn’t had an interaction with the police.

    Like seriously, any time I’ve been the victim of a crime, the police have been the worst part of it. I guess I’m probably biased, maybe there’s some place where cops don’t suck, but I don’t live there

    I think people probably like the idea of the police: someone you can call in an emergency when you’re in danger. But their response does not reflect their branding





  • I know you wanted the parents’ perspective, but this is something I struggle with regarding my own suicidality. There’s even a meme that people don’t kill themselves because “mom would be sad”

    I often think of the family I’d be leaving behind. Mom would never understand. Dad would probably get it, but suicide has a funny way of being contagious and I’d worry it would push him over the edge. My wife says she’d hate me forever.

    Grief is really fucking hard, and when people kill themselves the survivors play the blame game with themselves. Surviving your child is probably the most difficult thing a parent can do, and to torture yourself with the fantasy that you could have saved them seems like a special kind of hell.

    When I’m at my lowest, it feels like bullshit. Like honestly, my life has been so terrible that I want to end it, and yet people will carry on like they’d be the victim if I did. Maybe if you blame yourself and think you could have helped me, you could do it while I’m alive and asking for help.

    When I’m calmer I realize that nothing they could do probably would have helped. It still burns me up though - people talk about suicide like it’s the most selfish thing a person can do. When you’re already miserable it sure isn’t great being made to feel miserabler. It makes me feel like I deserve to suffer - and that means continuing to live.

    Anyway, I’ve been suicidal for just about thirty years. I figure I’ll give it another thirty, by then I’ll have outlasted my parents. Plenty of time to find meaning before then




  • I would generally lean towards nay, but I know there’s reasonable exceptions.

    The biggest issue comes with the dynamics of the workplace. The most obvious one is that the workplace is usually hierarchical, and if you’re ever on different levels of the org chart that opens the door to problems.

    Hitting on your subordinate puts them in a situation where they might not feel they can refuse because it could impact their job. Hitting on your supervisor could put them in a situation where they start worrying about a sexual harassment suit, or that it might bring on scrutiny where your coworkers start thinking you’ll get preferential treatment.

    Even if you both hold the same title, it can become problematic. What happens when one of you get promoted? What happens when HR is aware of the relationship and will skip over you for promotion because of the risk? What happens when your employer unjustly terminates your partner and they pressure you to also leave your job because your employer is a bastard?

    Those questions are assuming you enter a relationship. But what happens when you keep flirting with a coworker who does not reciprocate your feelings, but feels they have to keep the peace because of they reject you they still have to see you forty hours each week?

    Depending on your job, if you do start up a relationship you might get sick of seeing each other all the time. Or you might have opposite shifts and then never see each other even outside of work. What happens when the relationship implodes and you still have to work with your ex?

    Pretty much the only situation where I think it’d be worth the risk is if it’s a very casual job that you wouldn’t mind leaving if things got ugly. That could maybe apply to a casual relationship instead, but people often have very different ideas about what that means and it’s not uncommon to for people to get unhealthy in their relationships no matter how “casual” they say they wanted to be.

    If your boss had to tell you to stop, then it’s clearly a problem. Heed that warning






  • It does though, Maslow’s just being a dick

    If you have no curtains, then it’s covered by Tier 2: Safety. Your nest isn’t secure if anybody can just look into it.

    If you have curtains but don’t like them, it’s covered by Tier 4: Esteem. If you don’t like your curtains and they make you feel bad, it affects your self worth. Doubly so if you’re concerned your neighbours might think they’re shabby and judge you for it (this is another issue to unpack in therapy)

    Also, although the pyramid is a popular way to express it, Maslow himself never used a pyramid to describe the hierarchy.

    Now that I’ve ruined it by over-explaining: It was a funny comic, I laughed.