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  • TerdFerguson@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldSrsly
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    14 hours ago

    Why is it rude to not do small talk? I don’t understand that.

    I literally can’t make use of that information or force my brain to generate irrelevant nonsense for others to somehow vibe with.

    I’m not making a judgement against those who enjoy it or anything, I just cant do it.










  • REAL. This happened to me today in a meeting at work, and I don’t get it.

    Me: “The process we’re following doesn’t work for me because it is prone to so much contention getting to a definition. It’s very frustrating.”

    Them: “Im surprised you would say that. We’re (consultant) not here to make things difficult, we’re here to help you.”

    Me: “I did not say you intend to make this difficult. I said this process, the manner in which we are conducting this review, does not work for me and is the cause of the frustration”

    Them: “So you’re saying everything we’ve been doing is wrong”

    Me: “I gotta leave this call for a bit. Please excuse me.”






  • I mean, fundamentally, it kept me locked in a futile struggle to overcome my deficiencies so that I could be more acceptable to others.

    Internalized ableism I suppose, but it’s also a core failure in behaviour if you want to have good self esteem.

    Getting the actual assessment and a qualified diagnosis been very helpful in coming to acceptance for why Ive been so different my whole life. And thus Ive been able to finally become my actual self.

    But thats me, maybe someone who grows up with the proper support and community can find their way without this. I needed authoritative proof to help me change.