Oh boy! I got one of those too. My condolences to you. I know how exasperating it is to have to endure all those “I wish I had your mom. You are sooo Lucky she’s your mom” comments while dying inside. And yeah, smear campains are their thing when they are no longer in control of you, so they control the narrative. I lost all my maternal side of the family brcause of this, it hurt like a mofo but it worked out for the better for me and my husband and kid♥️ Right now on the road to no contact after years and years of grayrocking. Safe first✨️

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The trees are very eye drawing, love your pic!

Durum was my jam!

I too have the needle fear whenever I get vaccinated or blood drawn I get super anxious and I have passed out a couple of times… then I also have several tattooes. I can’t explain why those do not bother or scare me.

I loved playing the pool party song for my kid!

Same for me.

This is what I did when a situation like this popped up lol.

I come from a culture where multigenerational homes are a thing and me and my partner have done the unthinkable to break free from it. We have been shunned and ostricized for not following on the traditional way and as painful as it can be I will not subject my child to the burden of it. I know that te dream of having a solo home is that for many, just a dream, but multigenerational homes are a different kind of hell.

I smoked cigarrettes and drank alcohol for years, started when I was fifteen and stopped cold turkey when I turned thirty. That was sixteen years ago.

Tobacco was way harder to stop since my habit was up to about two or two and a half packs a day. My alcohol consumption was very high too, entire bottles of whatever I could get my hands on. I would “pregame” at my own house while getting ready to go to a party or nightclub and that would be my first bottle of the that night. But it is no comparison to how the lack of tobacco made me feel.

Both my parents were/are heavy smokers, my dad had a heart attack due to his smoking habit ten years ago. I still miss him. My mom still smokes and she is not interested in stopping.

I now know I was self medicating so I could survive trauma and cope in school (ADHD and CPTSD is a rough combo) and a great part of overcoming substance abuse, was the love and care of my husband. He pushed me to want to be a better person and stay around longer in better conditions.

I don’t but I have a dear friend who named his cars with things like “Captain stingray” for a Blue chevrolet he had, “Annoyed mother” for his mom’s van, “Stinky Pete” for his dad’s Cadillac (he was a heavy smoker) He named my first car “lil’ bit” since it was an old vw bug.

Now he drives an electric Mustang called “The beast”. Oh! He also owns a boat now named “Pretty Betty”

I see you have good taste.

This is my mindset too. It isn’t about me.

I have no internal monologue but I do have a mind’s eye. Ideas and thoughts appear to me in “splashes” or like a very quick flash. I can detect patterns in behavior and speech very accurately and quickly, and this abilty/quirk also makes me very tired rapidly. I love complicated stuff but get bored easily. Reading is one of my passions but I have to have different books for different times and places.

Good for you. Whenever I get this kind of situation with ny kid I think “Will this matter in five years? Will this purchase break the bank?” If not, I buy/allow/rent whatever and move on. It usually does the trick and I don’t mind if in my mind it sounds ridiculous or exaggerated, It is not about me but whatever they are going through and as long as they get the tools they need, so be it. Kid is very down to earth and doesn’t usually overconsume. The only place where we overspend is the bookstore.

That medical gaslighting line drives me insane: tHeRe aRe No nErVe eNdInGs SO wHaT YoU are feeling is not pain.

Just STFU and listen to patients! Why is it so damn hard? “You also need to lose weight and _____ willgo away” is another favorite.

Read Era. They also have a paid option but the free is great as it is!

That’s a great suggestion, thanks.

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Currently reading fiction:“The vanished man” by Jeffery Deaver.

Currently reading non fiction: “Homecoming” by John Bradshaw.

I am going to try and read 52 books this year. Let’s see how it goes.