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  • bystander@lemmy.catoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do middle aged family men handle it?
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    9 天前

    You have an end point that’s pretty close, and that’s great! If you know that your load will lighten up after, keep at it.

    Rely on your partner and friends for connection and help you through it. Be frank about your feelings. The people who turn to alcohol and adultery because of stress are the people that have been unfortunately told to keep it in and shoulder everything on their own, or unfortunately don’t have support. Find support and healthy outlets rather than turning to destructive substances or actions that are hard to take back.

    Keep track of what’s important to you in the long run in the end.

    You can do it!

  • bystander@lemmy.catoWorld News@lemmy.world•Apple told to remove LGBTQ+ dating apps by ChinaEnglish
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    11 天前

    I think it’s part of the effort to curb the population decrease. It’s not in the culture to pearl clutch about LGBTQ+ people as morally wrong like western cultures.

    They are trying anything to influence people to make babies. Stricter pornography rules, shaming women for not making babies, shaming “feminine men”, and that includes banning dating apps that helps indulge in activities that don’t help with making babies. Making queer people less visible is unfortunately part of the strategy.

    Though queer media is however not as banned as people think, so far at least.

  • bystander@lemmy.catoFunny@sh.itjust.works•Dear Amazon
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    25 天前

    I sometimes think about how we got here. How now this has become some people’s only option. Amazon banked on people relying on them and scooped up market share, and destroyed small businesses so they became the only option. People don’t even look for alternatives or discover businesses around them anymore. I had to help a few friends understand this. I had a friend buying toilet paper from Amazon, that’s literally sold everywhere.

    When I say don’t use Amazon, it’s not to shame the people who can’t, it’s to have them think of an alternative, train out their reliance. Don’t continue to give Amazon that reliance.

    There are not many times you need that specific obscure part, most of the time it’s things that will have alternative sources. So it’s about taking a moment to just consider.

    Target Jeff Bezos because he is literally top of the list of billionaires, he does not need the money. You can use this as a measurement. Newegg is a better option. A small electronics store that delivers in your country if their brick and mortar store is not near you, even better.

    And like you pointed out, perfection is the enemy of progress.

    This combined with just considering if you actually need something or just want junk advertised to you. It’s a way to break from frivolous consumption as well, which Amazon also relies on. Also consider that you don’t need things this fast. I feel like Amazon broke our perception. We used to not get things delivered for up to 2 weeks and that was fine. But somehow it’s unacceptable if it’s not there the next day. Most things you buy are not emergencies. Waiting does not waste your time, your life goes on while you wait.