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Cake day: 2023年7月20日

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  • I’m not sure if it was what you are going for, but one explanation is that the ever accessible dopamine hijacking bullshit spreading machine of social media is diluting the fuck out of parents influence.

    Couple this with a new requirement of dual incomes to subsist.

    So yes parents do have a role, and they are being squeezed out of it like a zit. The outcomes suck for everyone. I don’t know why it’s not mentioned, likely because it’s hard to ignore the egregious impacts of unfettered capitalism if you start asking these questions.







  • You’re taking the wrong path, I see some things that you may not be considering.

    Friendships don’t need to be defined by beginnings and ends. The gentlest way to cool a friendship is to spend less time with them.

    Spending time within someone you find attractive doesn’t screw with your psyche. An internal cycle of hope and rejection does.

    She already rejected you, you said it in the post. ‘Its not the right time’ is not an invitation to wait, it’s a gentle no (and it’s much worse approach than just saying no). Accept it and move on. If your thoughts wander to oh but maybe we could be together if I do something - remind yourself she said no. If you need further clarification ask again.

    Threatening to end the friendship for a romantic relationship has zero good outcomes. If you can’t handle the rejection or don’t want to be her friend, then stop making time to see her. The only reason to explain that it is ‘because you want more’, is the thought that it will change her mind - remember emotional manipulation is gross and rapey but don’t worry you haven’t done it yet. Thinking about things isn’t doing them.

    Also, you sound like a young man, so I just want to affirm that the drive to have sex can be wild strong, and make clear thinking hard. It’s okay, just remember you don’t want be with someone who you can get to agree to a relationship with you, you want to be with someone who wants to be in a relationship with you. Everyone is worth that much.








  • That’s a very rose tinted glasses view of the local impact a federal candidate has, vs the impact of the elected government.

    Ignore the word punish. If you don’t like lib/nat wreck and sell plans, don’t vote national no matter what promise they makes to the electorate - it’s highly unlikely they have the ability to hold up their end of the bargain as it’ll be a party decision.