I support trans people, but I still feel a little bit uncomfortable around them because of my conservative upbringing and how hard “trans = bad” was driven into my head. I’m working on improving that and every time I interact with someone who is trans I become a little bit more comfortable with it.
If I ever felt the need to tell someone this feeling, I think I would completely rephrase it to avoid this situation anyway.
Im the trans girl your parents warned you about >:3
I get it. I had to do a lot of unlearning just to be comfortable with myself. I can hardly blame folks who are trying for slipping up as long as they do what the can to make it right.
Some of us grew up with that same belief set about ourselves.
I think theres a lot of opportunity to say that kind of thing kindly to a friend or person. As someone who’s working on not seeing herslef as bad just because I exist, the fact that you’re working towards fixing that internal bias helps on that journey for anyone traveling it
You’re doing infinitely more work than the majority of the US right now; it’s much appreciated that yoy’re confronting your own discomfort with kindness and compassion rather than the usual anger and vitriol that leads to violence against trans people
That’s fair, I had sorts of folks I had to spend time around to get comfortable with too. I think a lot of people think that it’s necessary or easy to suddenly become comfortable with sorts of people who are marginalized. But what we should be doing is demanding people be moving towards a more equal and free society and not making their discomfort those people’s problem.
ETA: building comfort with those groups is also important, but it’s slow and it’s something we shouldn’t beat people up for not being quite at yet.
I support trans people, but I still feel a little bit uncomfortable around them because of my conservative upbringing and how hard “trans = bad” was driven into my head. I’m working on improving that and every time I interact with someone who is trans I become a little bit more comfortable with it.
If I ever felt the need to tell someone this feeling, I think I would completely rephrase it to avoid this situation anyway.
Im the trans girl your parents warned you about >:3
I get it. I had to do a lot of unlearning just to be comfortable with myself. I can hardly blame folks who are trying for slipping up as long as they do what the can to make it right.
Some of us grew up with that same belief set about ourselves.
I think theres a lot of opportunity to say that kind of thing kindly to a friend or person. As someone who’s working on not seeing herslef as bad just because I exist, the fact that you’re working towards fixing that internal bias helps on that journey for anyone traveling it
You’re doing infinitely more work than the majority of the US right now; it’s much appreciated that yoy’re confronting your own discomfort with kindness and compassion rather than the usual anger and vitriol that leads to violence against trans people
That’s fair, I had sorts of folks I had to spend time around to get comfortable with too. I think a lot of people think that it’s necessary or easy to suddenly become comfortable with sorts of people who are marginalized. But what we should be doing is demanding people be moving towards a more equal and free society and not making their discomfort those people’s problem.
ETA: building comfort with those groups is also important, but it’s slow and it’s something we shouldn’t beat people up for not being quite at yet.